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Anna Tuckett's avatar

“He hurt the families of non-verbal children who believed the story of his unprecedented late acquisition of language, and either blamed themselves for lacking the patience and love of Arday’s mother, or blamed their children for their failure to blossom. (For whatever reason, that’s the part that made me angriest.)”

Thank you. I dare not comment about this aspect of the story on Substack, but you are right to be angry, fabulists/pathological liars have certainly hurt families like mine. My son was diagnosed with autism relatively early, at four, partly because his speech was delayed. It was later apparent he was also learning-disabled and he went to special schools (Arday didn’t). There is zero chance of him going to university, never mind becoming an academic. But throughout his childhood, well-intentioned people kept telling us we “just need to believe in him”, “labels are harmful”, “my cousin Tom was also a late bloomer”etc It only really stopped a few years ago - he’s now 21.

Kate Clanchy's avatar

A brilliant and deeply thoughtful essay. The analogy about the Atlantic is superb.

Huw Edwards liked my comments too. Worrying times.

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